The pain of loss is part of the human condition and, as with everything human…it changes. Many people fear the pain of loss and resist it with every ounce of their being. They do not realise that, because it is subject to change, it actually cannot not be dispelled, so long as it’s allowed to take its own course. This realisation is the first step on the path towards healing and new life.
Grieving is the innate capacity we’ve been given to heal the pain of loss (and to move it from pain… to sorrow… to peace.) This is what I call moving from Loss to Life. Each person forges their own path, in their own time and in their own ways. We can allow the grief to play so that it may transform…so that peace emerges. The pain of loss perpetuates where it is given energy through resentment, non-acceptance, denial, conflict, through belief in it as an eternal entity, which it can never be.
‘Mourning is more than recovering from death, it is recovering life. We chase after solace, resolution – an end to the pain. There is nothing to chase after. To find life again, we need only go back to ourselves.’
In our coaching partnership we will look at:
- The nature of the loss you’ve experienced and how it’s affecting you.
- Your current responses to this life situation, what’s working and what isn’t.
- The resources you have for working with grief and how to unleash more of these in ways that serve you.
- How to heal (where ‘healing’ does not mean ‘curing or fixing’ but integrating into a peaceful and joyful lease of life.)
Allowing the pain of loss and being willing to work through it and beyond is not saying that what has happened is ok with you. It’s saying that you’re willing to face the reality of the loss and to commit to yourself in moving forwards from there. It might help to know that facing the reality of the loss is often far less painful than the fear of the pain of loss.
‘If I defer the grief, I will diminish the gift.’ Eavon Boland
To grieve is to heal and thrive. Choosing Bereavement Coaching is about working with me to grieve your loss, while nurturing yourself, honouring your truth and moving towards a meaningful and fulfilling life.
Contact me to arrange an informal, no obligation chat to see whether Bereavement Coaching is for you, or call the number above.